11 Ways to be a Gentleman When in a date
Guys, sing it or not, we women love gentlemen. We love all the beautiful touches and words you sprinkled on us as we love the apple pie made by mom. Those hand-picked roses from your neighbor's garden can also be deceptive, but are they really?
Without going overboard, you can still be gentle and win our hearts. Yes, even cold hearts can melt with simple actions (notice how I emphasize actions?) And words (because, yes, words count, too!).
1. Do as you say.
Often, relationships break up because of broken promises. Managers rarely or even break their promises (without really good reason). And when I say legitimate, it’s for unexpected reasons (like unexpected and completely emerging reasons). The moments of life and death are calculated, compared to laziness or “out of control” excuses.
If you’re not in a position to do something, tell that to your partner and maybe (maybe just) you’ll understand. Yes, we know that you are also a person and that you have good and bad times with your spiritual condition. You just want to stay home or have a day for all the boys just like we girls do. So please feel free to tell us the REAL reason why you are not at lunch with us and we will do our best to understand you. It's just a matter of communication.
2. Say things clearly.
I know it can sound really hard for those who are not ‘good-natured people.’ But hey, your words can make or break your relationship dude. There may be times when you can hold that bad word, or better yet, never say it at all when you know that you will offend your significant other.
Well, you can say that it varies from person to person, but would it really be a death sentence for you if you didn't say those hurtful words? So what if you feel that you're just not good enough to meet him for the first time? So what if her hair is not as straight or curly as you want it to be? Is it better to tell her openly that she is no longer beautiful? Think about it, because you can save your dying relationship.
3. Hold the door open.
Old school actions are still valid; trust me. No matter how hard you try to open up to yourself, be careful enough to realize that he also needs you to be there for him (even the smallest things). And yes, we really appreciate this step. Or talk about doors.
4. Bring her home a day later.
It can be difficult, especially if you don't have the 'wheels' to take her home after your day (not to mention your extra expenses), but what better way to be a gentleman than to let her people / siblings / guardian (especially if she still lives with them) take good care of their princess? Yup, this is the blue way to be a gentleman without falling into the sea!
5. Participate in small activities.
Mildness is not a matter of mere words. Your planning for small things (especially your future dates) counts too much. Instead of letting him make all the decisions, why not take the initiative to build a list of places (Note: This does not have to be expensive places) to go. When you have finished your list, show it to her and let both of you plan your trip. Aside from showing that you intend to take her to a simple but memorable hangout, you will surely show that you are serious about your intentions with her.
6. Seek permission from the parents / siblings / guardian when you leave.
Okay, this can work for those who are single (and based on cultural preferences), but I would like to emphasize the power of seeking parental approval. Some may disagree with this practice, but it is still considered a gentleman's way of showing respect for them.
Call it corny, but even thousands of years later they still have to look at their parents' opinions on important matters (especially those of the heart). By doing so, you, sir, also show how serious you are about him.
And for women, of course, it's a good habit and (often) to let your parents know where you are. This is not to deprive you of your privacy or anything, but especially if you are still living with your parents, you will be in good hands knowing that your parents trust you and your boyfriend. That's the best feeling we've ever had.
7. Be respectful (even to strangers).
The gentleman is not easily offended by simple things. Did you meet a waiter who spilled orange juice on your fancy suit? Can you scold him right there? Uh-oh. Only that D-I-S-A-S-T-T-E-R is already available.
Of course, we women also like cool air, especially in small things. Notice how I always emphasize simple things? Because they are so important. If you cannot respect those around you, how much more so will you respect us in the long run!
8. Be especially respectful to your mother.
Respect on the streets is already a great combination. What more could we ask for when it comes to your mother and your whole family? If you are already respectful, polite, and kind to your parents, you will have an easy time showing your husband your love for the girl.
Being green is not in the language of words sir. Although there may be times when you feel you are not there (especially because of some unresolved issues at work, family, etc.), it will not hurt to smile or say things in a kind way. Your respect can take you a long way!
9. Compromise.
Can't agree on where to go? Don't want to go where your girlfriend wants to be? No problem, because the gentleman is learning to compromise. Although it may be "no" to go to KTV, but your girlfriend wants to spend time out of breath, you might want to go with her there. After all, you love her, don't you? Even if you don’t want to sing (or if you think you might break the glasses there), it won’t really hurt to go with him. And yes, that's a gentleman's way of saying that he doesn't just love his life for the sake of convenience, he says he's in the long run.
10. Carry his (heavy) burden.
The husband is sensitive enough to know that his wife has a problem handling her belongings. May it be his shopping bag, some garbage bags, milk cans, etc., if you are a real gentleman, you can help. While we strongly respect gender equality now, it will not hurt if you pass the help on to your girl.
11. Give her a seat.
The old act itself, giving your girl a seat (whether you’re in a restaurant, on the bus, in a queue, etc.) is a time-tested way to express your concerns. Not only will you revive the good old days when you were truly in love, but it will also make you feel so special that you will have a hard time sleeping, remembering your gentle nature
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